Me and Poh... we met under challenging circumstances, and he became my longtime friend. I learned a lot from him - how to sit in silence; how not to chase after affection (he was too standoffish for everyday affection); how to keep fit and active and walk three times a day; how to ask for what you want, insist on it even... Poh died last summer, after almost 17 years of being in my life. I loved him with all my heart, and still do. His story also shows how grief and joy are interdependent... you can't have one without the other.